So, the lack of space and the fact that JD is a noisy sleeper (groaning, moaning, grunting, farting) meant that it would allow me to actually switch off enough to go to sleep if he went into his own room.
Jake's room is literally next door to ours and we have a video and audio monitor which allows us to see and hear Jake. It's good because you can also zoom in and check their mouth/ chest if you have any worries.
|@mummybexm - monitoring the baby monitor|
But there's something about being a mum that makes you crazily worried about them. I find myself waking up every few hours to check the monitor to make sure that he is OK.
I am constantly monitoring the monitor!
Even when he has his day time naps (I ensure all morning and lunch time naps at home are in his own bed), I am monitoring that monitor!! I can't help it!
There's something that makes me a little anxious when he sleeps - I worry so much more than when he's awake.
There is so much information given to you about SIDS that it's almost frightening.
The NHS define SIDS as being the sudden, unexpected and unexplained death of an apparently well baby. And it terrifies me. Add to that the fact that it is more common in their first 6 months, and with baby boys. Again - terrifying. The cause of SIDS is not known or fully understood - it is thought to be the result of a range of factors which some babies just can't respond to appropriately. The NHS do give some tips on how to help prevent SIDS, and I do as much of this as I can:
- Place their baby on their back to sleep - check!
- Let baby sleep in a cot in the same room as you, or nearby - check!
- Don't smoke during pregnancy or in the same rooms as your baby - check! Have never smoked!
- Don't share a bed with your baby if you/your partner are smokers or take drugs. Also avoid doing so if you have been drinking alcohol - check! Since pregnancy I no longer drink any alcohol at all.
- Never sleep with your baby on a sofa or armchair - check! Hubby has slept on sofa with JD, but under my supervision.
- Don't let your baby get too hot or too cold - check! This is the one that is the most difficult for me, and one I worry about the most. I am never too sure about whether he's warm enough or not. We no longer use a sleeping bag because he kept rotating around in his cot and so we now use blankets.
- Place baby in the 'feet to foot' position so that there feet are at the end of the cot - check!
- If possible breastfeed. - I no longer breastfeed and it doesn't say why breastfeeding reduces SIDS.
I can't imagine the pain of losing your little one, and my heart goes out to any parent or may have been a victim of SIDS. If you want more information, advice, support or to simply help others - please visit The Lullaby Trust's website. They offer so much to those who may need help and advice.