Tuesday, 27 January 2015

Mummy wants to Cuddle


I don't know about you and your baby, but my little man just isn't a cuddler. 

When he was newborn and still really young JD would only go to sleep if we were cuddling/holding him. I remember those first few nights, we were mistakenly rocking and shushing him to sleep, staying up for hours sat on the sofa with the 24 hour news muted in the background (it's fair to say we didn't know what we were doing!).

He would nap on us, too, during the day. But quite quickly he became disinterested in cuddles. Jake doesn't like to be 'bustled' - he doesn't like people bothering him and 'petting him'. He isn't interested in cuddling us unless he's tired or under the weather. 

Oh - don't get me wrong - on his 'bad days' he's clingy, but not for cuddles. Just to be held up off the floor and looking around. 

More and more, I find myself wanting to cuddle him. To snuggle his warm body and smell his baby smell. I want him to want to come into our bed in the morning (but he only stands it for about 10 mins!) and to fall asleep on us again - but these are now becoming rarities. They happen only when really tired, or not feeling himself. I love those cuddles we get at night, after the late feed and we sing 'twinkle twinkle'.
I hope we get our cuddly JD back after this new phase -  mummy wants cuddles! 


6 comments:

  1. My two have gone from cuddly to distance over the last 6 years. It's like an emotional rollercoaster of love and rejection lol. He'll come back out of this phase but brace yourself for the next one and enjoy them when you get them.

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    1. Emotional rollercoaster totally sums this parenting lark up! Lol. It's so contradictory - you want them to not need to be picked up a million times a day and then you want them to want cuddles!x

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    2. My eldest at times looks at me and says "Daddy you look like you need a cuddle" and then gives me one. Others he just looks at me with the look "you don't deserve one today" lol emotionally draining lol

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    3. Awwww gosh!! That's brought a little tear to my eye. Kids can be so emotionally aware and loving :)

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  2. Same! He would always nestle in and cuddle up. But then the cuddles stopped. He wanted to be held or supported but not cuddled. He wants to look away from me at whats going on in the room or place we are in. I am happy to report that around 7 months id say "hug" and he'd throw his arms around my neck for the quickest cuddle before resuming mischief making. It's progress and I live in hope one day proper cuddles will come back without him being poorly or having hurt himself attempting something new x

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    1. Aww that's reassuring then! Glad to hear that the cuddling comes back. We get cuddles at bed time now (sort of) as he likes when I sing - hubby finds this hilarious because (in his words) I have a terrible voice lol!

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