Tuesday, 2 August 2016

The Working Parents' Child


We categorise our children in so many ways: the only child, the middle child etc. But I want to talk about 'The Working Parents' Child' and how you can spot these ever increasing species roaming around like Pokemon's hidden in the 'Go' app. 

So what is a 'Working Parents Child'? 
Well, a working parents' child is one whose parents both work more hours in employment than they spend with their child during the day before said child is put to bed. Or - if a single parent, that parent works more time in employment than they get to spend with their child during the day before said child is put to bed.

How can you spot a 'Working Parents' Child'? 
A WPC will undoubtedly be completely used to being left by their parents with others - nursery staff, childminders, grandparents, aunties, uncles, next door's dog etc. They will have an air of 'rushed exit' upon leaving the house each morning in which their hair is likely still in its 'bed head' style; their socks may not match and it's entirely possible that the said parent/s have completely forgotten to bring something utterly essential for the day.

What qualities does a 'Working Parents' Child' possess?
Well they are resilient; they have a well trained ability to accept that their parents aren't the only ones who will be feeding and washing them.
They will undoubtedly have an air of confidence knowing that they will get to go home and be entirely angelic/devellish at their own choice and the entire day is wiped clean from that moment.
They will be showered with extra love and affection upon the return of the said working parents who will be filled with guilt for not being there with them all day and this could cause a cheeky/ mischievous personality to arise now and then. 

How do you spot a Working Parents' Child's parent?
They are the ones swearing at the car door. They are the ones blubbing in the car on the way to/from work because of the guilt weighing them down. They are the parents in Early Learning Centre buying a new toy/outfit every week to try and fill the hole the guilt is making in their chest. The WPC's parent will be the one with their hair/ make up not done as they rush their way into work and straight to the bathroom to try and be at least somewhat presentable. They are the adults who obsessively look to see if other children the same age are doing what their kid is doing and feeling relieved that they, too, are throwing their food. 
But mostly, they are the ones who seem... Torn. Shredded. Divided. Pulled between family and work. Survival or failure. Career or dreams. Bills paid or belongings repossessed. And they juggle it all day in - day out. 

What do 'Working Parents's Children' become? 
Who knows. But they get the best of both worlds - parenting, childcare, nursery, socialising, grandparents, routine and lots of love from lots of different people. 

Above all...
What is most important is to see that no two children are the same. No two parents are the same, and regardless of whether you're a SAHM, a SAHD or a working parent - we're all just trying to do our very best for our children. After all, isn't that what parenting is all about?

Do you have a working parents' child? Were you one yourself? What are your experiences?

Bex
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*Obviously parts of this are 'tongue in cheek' and it does not in any way assume I think all working parents and their children fit this description. No need to take offence. Just my own thoughts on my own WPC!

2 comments:

  1. I've been on both sides of this wretched little fence. I must say, both sides are guilt ridden, admittedly the Working Parent more so to me. When at work I stressed about not being able to give my all to parenting or my job to be honest. I was tired constantly, and felt an utter failure at both. The stinger was I wasn't even 'bringing home the bacon', with child care fees so high and the cost of my car I wasn't adding much value. We took the decision that I'd stay home. Now I won't lie, I'm much, much happier. I'm giving everything I've got to my two girls. Some days that's hard - but much easier because of the - loving them so much - bit. However I still have the guilt, not adding anything to the pot, waving my poor husband off every morning to provide for us all and the strain it must be for him, because we're still not well off. Then that feeling that you should be doing something - I think possibly a government pressure - being 'just' a Mum doesn't seem to hold much value these days. So that's what I'm trying to do with my blog... be something as well as a Mum - a blogger? hopefully a little bit of an inspiration to other parents, who knows.
    Wow - I went for it a bit there! Try not to feel guilty either way - we're all doing the best we possibly can. I don't judge and just hope for the same in return. xx

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  2. Thank you for your lovely comment, Cat. So great to hear someone's opinion who has lived both parts of the story. I think you're absolutely right - we should not judge and I certainly try not to. I hope that isn't how I came across. I also think you're spot on about the government pressure that 'just being a mum' isn't enough when really it is SO MUCH. Thank you for commenting xxxx

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